So, I’m an ENFJ

Years after first hearing about the MBTI Personality Test, I finally got around to actually doing it today. My scores were entirely unambiguous: I am an ENFJ, i.e. Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging (Extraverted Feeling with Introverted Intuition), otherwise known as ‘The Giver.’ Here are a few highlights from my profile that should make those that know me smile in recognition:

“ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ’s main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

ENFJ’s are so externally focused that it’s especially important for them to spend time alone.
ENFJs tend to define their life’s direction and priorities according to other people’s needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It’s natural to their personality type that they will tend to place other people’s needs above their own, but they need to stay aware of their own needs so that they don’t sacrifice themselves in their drive to help others. Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people, they’re likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner, rather than as individuals.

ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they’re able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will be expressed as long as they’re not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When faced with a conflict between a strongly held value and serving another person’s need, they are highly likely to value the other person’s needs.

The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.
People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.

ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure and resolving ambiguity. In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counselling. They enjoy being the centre of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.

ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals. ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They’re very loyal and trustworthy once involved in a relationship.

In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.

ENFJs generally have the following traits:
Genuinely and warmly interested in people
Value people’s feelings
Value structure and organization
Value harmony, and good at creating it
Exceptionally good people skills
Dislike impersonal logic and analysis
Strong organizational capabilities
Loyal and honest
Creative and imaginative
Enjoy variety and new challenges
Get personal satisfaction from helping others
Extremely sensitive to criticism and discord
Need approval from others to feel good about themselves

What does Success mean to an ENFJ?
ENFJs are motivated by external human situations, primarily by other people; their talents, their needs, their aspirations and their cares forming the world in which an ENFJ lives. They thrive when able to “make things right” for others, to enable and empower their co-workers, friends and family through valuing their human strengths and abilities. When gifted with the added ENFJ ability to intuitively adapt their feelings to the way they are affected by others, the ENFJ has a positive drive to find co-operative pathways leading to the best possible outcome for all. Success for an ENFJ comes through involvement in the process of making things happen for people; through the accomplishments and satisfactions of those they have helped to enrich the human world with greater value, and through finding that their efforts on behalf of others have fulfilled their own life as well.

As an ENFJ, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren’t natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role. Nearly all ENFJs will recognize the following characteristics in themselves. They should embrace and nourish these strengths:
Making others feel valued and important
Quickly seeing the positive and negative aspects of a human situation
Expressing their feelings clearly
Offering loyalty and commitment to partners, family and work mates
Trying to always find the solution which works for everyone
Encouraging humour and self expression in others
Finding ways to help others fulfil their needs
Affirming positive community values
Naturally falling into leadership roles in their community

ENFJs who have developed their Introverted Intuition to the extent that they can see the possibilities within their perceptions will enjoy these very special gifts:
Understanding and empathizing with the feelings of others; realizing “where they are coming from”.
A talent for creative expression which can turn ordinary things and situations into something magical.
An enhanced feeling of connection with and sensitivity to the world around them.
The ability to see many facets of a problem and the many ways it might be resolved for the best.
The ability to make creative and valuable use of time spent alone.
They become increasingly creative, visionary and empathetic, and are therefore effective and kind managers of businesses, people, and various situations that life presents.”

Okay, despite editing this is getting extremely long, so I’m going to stop there, just in time to avoid sharing ‘Potential Problem Areas’ – which are in fact fascinating, and present wonderful opportunities for my own self-evaluation and learning.

Do any of you lovely readers know your MBTI Personality Type?

6 thoughts on “So, I’m an ENFJ

  1. Wow. This is quite something, eh? That really does read like such a close description of you in so many places! I hope you agree with me now that MBTI truly makes sense 😉

    As you know I’m ENFP, so not that far behind, but it’s funny how just one letter difference can bring out different qualities in either of us.

    This opens up a world of possibilities around MBTI: as you say, ‘problem areas’ and things to focus on to ensure you’re helping yourself; and then, moving outside to analysing those closest to you, and seeing how types interact with each other. I’d once again recommend ‘Please understand me I and II’ for that.

  2. I did do this once, but I cannot remember what it said. Something along the lines of “You are odd, and over salivate over certain recipes” and that kind of stuff, but in truth, I cannot remember what one I was: perhaps I need to have another go, and then I can share my results with you

    1. Hahaha, oh Peter, you do always make my day by providing a touch of self-depreciating humour 🙂 If you’re serious about doing it again, check your facebook inbox – it’s waiting for you (so you have no excuses 😉 )

      1. OK, Nice to meet on FB, and I’m a ISFJ apparently. You know how it is. Sometimes your cursor wobbles over a box and you don’t know whether to go to the left or the right. MInd you, there was no question asking me whether I was incredibly indecisive or not, which is just as well, although I’m not usually, unless people ask me what I’m like.

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